Bring Fun and Magic into Manifesting Your Mate

Today I invite single people who are looking for partnership to lighten up, play and discover the fun and magic that can be found in manifesting your mate.

In our group-coaching program, we have some members who are aware of how significant and serious they have made the process of finding their mate.

Their approach to Internet dating has become serious minus the play. They have removed all of the play and exploration in finding their life partner and have made it a serious endeavor.

I don’t know about you, but when I am being pursued by another, I am always more interested in those who are joyous and playful in wooing me. My attitude is “If you can’t bring the fun don’t bother getting to know me.”

Life offers us many opportunities to be serious and significant, and I do not believe that the area of relationship needs to be one of them. We can successfully master relationships through the avenue of play and curiosity.

Try it! I challenge you to shift your attitude to playfulness and curiosity and see if you do not notice a difference in how open another is to you from this point of view!

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Bringing Curiosity and Play Into Your Relationship...

Today I invite you to look at your current relationships and see if you have lost a sense of serious play and curiosity in this relationship.

See if you have tension and conflict in those areas. What is probably missing are those key ingredients for maintaining a joyous balance of fun and magic.

When we consciously choose to bring in a sense of play, and it can be serious play, the kind of play where you bring your whole heart and soul to the endeavor, you are willing to be in the fun and magic of your relationship.

Also, when you decide to remain curious as you learn about your partner or another, the tension and conflict will cease to exist. When I am playful with Melvin, I am curious about how he approaches life and how he solves problems. This allows me to learn things about him I otherwise would not know.

I have also learned that when I bring play and curiosity to our marriage there is a sense of openness, joy, and harmony that flows between us.

Bring play into your relationship today! Let me know how you are doing that by clicking on "comments" below!

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Remembering Child-Like Curiosity...

I remember when I was a child I was curious about life. I wanted to know how the world worked.

As a consequence, I was always outdoors exploring.

From the time I woke up and had my breakfast, I would tell my mother that I would be back later, and off I would dash to explore what I could in my area of the world of which I was permitted play.

But, I was exploring. I remained curious and interested in the things and people around me. Then when I got married, it was about taking our relationship to the next level, and all sense of play and curiosity was over for all practical purposes.

I stopped questioning and started accusing.

Why are you doing things that way?

What do you mean about that?

My questions were not one of being interested, but figuring it out to see if it was part of my agenda, and if not, then how can I shut it down so that it does not threaten me, as in my identity.

What I was doing was failing to see the beauty in remaining open to learning about this wonderful person with whom I chose to spend my time on this journey I call my life.

By realizing that I was cutting myself off from learning about this fabulous and wonderful person, I had disconnected myself from qualities I had enjoyed and cultivated as a child…curiosity!

to be continued...

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Are You Keeping the Play in Your Relationship?

In my relationship with my husband, Melvin, I remember when we played and romped. We traveled, poked fun at each other and enjoyed the art of learning about one another.

Laughter came easy through our bantering, playing backgammon, chess, and cards. We played…yes; we played full out in our getting to know each other. It was what I would call serious play.

But, I remember once we got married I said, “Now it is time to get serious!” and guess what, I threw the art of play out of our marriage. We stopped playing.

What I have observed is the importance in maintaining a sense of play in relationships. Play keeps things in flow and the atmosphere of a relationship light in spirit.

Also, I learned that it takes approximately 15 years to understand a culture of any kind. In my opinion, a relationship is its own culture so in that respect, it takes about that amount of time to understand your partner who is part of the culture of your relationship. It is also important to maintain that sense of curiosity.

Are you maintaining a sense of play and curiosity in your relationship? I'd love to hear your comments. Please post them below where it says "comments."

We'll have more on this discussion next time...

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Bringing and Keeping Play Into Relationships

I am becoming aware of how little people in relationships are willing to play and explore with their significant others.

When people decide to get into a relationship, everything becomes serious and significant.

Even in the pursuit of a relationship, we make it significant.

As a couple, the ability to remain playful and curious is what will get you through the hard times in your relationships.

Next time, more about playing and romping!

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Stormy Relationships Bear Many Gifts

We are often baffled, shocked, and sometimes knocked off our center when we find ourselves in a “storm” in our relationships with the people we care about. I say our relationships because although going through a storm in a romantic relationship can be daunting or “take it out of us,” going through a storm in our intimate relationships can be far more painful then it seems.

Here is an idea! I recommend we reframe how we hold our “stormy” relationships. It is my experience that my stormiest relationships have been my biggest life lessons, and opportunities to grow more compassionately towards myself and others with whom I am in the storm. These kinds of relationships often allow me to deepen in the area of intimacy. By reframing our stormy relationships we are able to set the other person, including ourselves, free to experience the rich messiness, and juiciness of which relationships are made.

Stormy relationships help us to know that we are alive! Now, make no mistake, I do not mean high drama, take no responsibility type relationships. I mean stormy relationships where there is some level of transformation once you clear the storm.

My husband and I are just coming out of a storm in our relationship. When we met, he lived in New Jersey, and I lived in Los Angeles. Whenever, we wanted to see each other, he or I would jump on an airplane to visit the other. I was a flight attendant for a major airline so it made it easy for both of us to travel. Well, that arrangement worked for us because we both had full, productive lives, making many wonderful things happen in the world.

Well, there was a bit of a storm when we decided to relocate the headquarters of our partnership to LA, creating shared space. What were we thinking? Well, that storm supported us in creating loving, healthy boundaries for ourselves and the health of our relationship. In fact, that storm moved our relationship forward. Then, we experienced another storm of a similar nature, when I chose to leave my career as a flight attendant to pursue a Ph.D. in Depth Psychology with husband in tow. Well, the tension that has been brewing since I have been home has tested both of us to no end, and I have to say we are still in process.

But, I would like to emphasize the storm we are coming out of is leaving us with some wonderful rich gifts to enjoy as we deepen our Couplehood. I am learning to lovingly hear my husband’s contributions to me. He now is able to appreciate me on a level that only a deep abiding love can foster. We have strengthened our commitment to our relationship, giving each other the opportunity to choose into the relationship, daily. The storms in my marriage have been my most blessed gifts!

The nature of our being is in weathering the storms of life and strengthening on all levels. Human beings are likened to an oak tree. We are strong, sturdy, and can take our hits from nature. The storms in our relationships strengthen us and deepen our roots to live, love, and laugh our way to brighter moments.

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