In my relationship with my husband, Melvin, I remember when we played and romped. We traveled, poked fun at each other and enjoyed the art of learning about one another.
Laughter came easy through our bantering, playing backgammon, chess, and cards. We played…yes; we played full out in our getting to know each other. It was what I would call serious play.
But, I remember once we got married I said, “Now it is time to get serious!” and guess what, I threw the art of play out of our marriage. We stopped playing.
What I have observed is the importance in maintaining a sense of play in relationships. Play keeps things in flow and the atmosphere of a relationship light in spirit.
Also, I learned that it takes approximately 15 years to understand a culture of any kind. In my opinion, a relationship is its own culture so in that respect, it takes about that amount of time to understand your partner who is part of the culture of your relationship. It is also important to maintain that sense of curiosity.
Are you maintaining a sense of play and curiosity in your relationship? I'd love to hear your comments. Please post them below where it says "comments."
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